5 Things Every Engaged Couple Should Know
5 Things Every Engaged Couple Should Know:
1. Marriage is a magnifier.
Some couples think a bad habit or irritating trait will disappear after they say, “I do…” The reality is that marriage is a magnifier - both positively and negatively. See a little bit of this trait while dating or engaged? You’ll be seeing a lot of it after you get married.
2. Money is a big part of life.
Have you had some honest communication about student loans, credit scores, spending/saving habits? Money is often the number one thing couples fight about in marriage.
3. Do they know how to “fight nice?”
How do they handle conflict, stress and anger? Life will flip you for real and you won’t always agree on how to handle it! Now what? Do they get loud? Do they withdraw? Can they disagree without it getting personal? Do they bring up past mistakes constantly? Learn how to fight nice, fight fair and argue constructively toward solutions - NOT tear down and just hurt each other. (And remember - marriage is a magnifier…)
4. Get around each other’s friends and family.
Love is blind but your uncle might be an eye-opener. He might see a quality or trait that you flat-out missed. What are their friends and family like? How do they communicate and manage conflict? Does his mom dote on him all the time because “he’s her little baby?” Is he going to be expecting that same doting treatment from you?
5. Saying, “I Don’t…”
It is better to break off an engagement than to move forward into a marriage that your heart really isn’t into, you have a bad feeling about, or all the people close to you are warning you about. It might feel too late in the game, you may have spent money, rented out space and even sent invitations, but until you say, “I do…” you can still say “I don’t…” And that may be best in some cases. Maybe you just need to date a little longer and get to know each other better. Maybe you have some real concerns that have to be addressed. Remember: Marriage is for life, “‘til death do us part…”
No matter what, these 5 things that every engaged couple should know can guide you and your potential spouse through this season of unknown, planning, and celebrations!
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